Growing up I didn't have a lot of self confidence, I was a tom boy so I put on this front of "I don't care what you say" but to this day the bullying and name calling from childhood has stuck with me. Being called "Freckle face" for the most part of my younger days is the reason I am yet to love my freckles, for a while during the wedding planning I thought about getting a long sleeve dress because I was so worried about how the photos would look if you could see that my arms are covered in freckles but I have learnt not only how to reduce them with makeup but more importantly to focus more on the features I do love about myself. I have tried so many creams to fade them but once I accepted them as part of who I am and remembered that there are some people who find them endearing I became more comfortable.
I think a lot of self confidence is about being comfortable with who you are. Yes there are things we all don't like about ourselves but being able to see past those thing and keeping in mind that you are more than your "flaws".
I got to a point in my life where what people thought of me affected how I lived my life and how I felt about myself so much that I needed to take a step back and look at myself. I had a loving and supportive family, a boyfriend who thought I was beautiful, funny and clearly loved me since we are now married. I had to realise that although I didn't have a huge group of girlfriends like the movies, my friends would do anything for me in a heartbeat, which is much more important than how many people I could call a friend. It was at this time that I realised my self confidence was not only more important but also influenced how people acted towards me. From that moment on I have really worked on the way I feel about myself. To not doubt people when they give me a compliment, to not justify why I left the house in track pants, understanding that if I am negative about myself around people that will rub off on them.
Most of the days I lack confidence is because of the pressure I put on myself, Can i do something as well as she can? Do I look as nice as she did when I wear my hair like that? Did they notice that I haven't wiped down the windows? It's the pressure I put on myself to be perfect, which is silly because I know that perfect doesn't exist. Understanding that even the people who look perfect and seem to have a perfect life sometimes stay in their pyjamas until noon.
Mostly I have learnt to not compare myself to others. There will always be someone who can do something better than me, that is taller, has nicer clothes but at the end of the day if I am happy with my self does any of that matter? Why waste a night dancing carefree on the dance floor because you were worried about what that guy would think? What people think about you is not important, how you feel about yourself is. As soon as you understand this your confidence will increase by leaps and bounds. If you are confident it will shine through in everything in you do.
" Confidence is silent, Insecurities are loud"
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